i think it is extremely disgusting for someone who wants other to understand the sufferings she/he had by wishing it happened to the other as well.
like you wish other can taste the bitterness that you had once tasted. so that they can be in the same state as you were.
i had this one experience that simply telling me who is the person im dealing with. it just sort of unmask all the fake laugh or sweet talk.
one day this person told me about his bad experience. he was complaining something that both of us could do nothing about it. so what can i do? i did what i can: listen and say some simple things, 'oh i hope that wont happen again' or 'aw, that's bad.'
the next day appearantly it happend to me, so i told him about it. mine actually was a lighter thing, because there's an angelic person step foward and solve it. i was just sharing, and one reply from him,
'now you know how i felt.'
i feel so disgusting even until today when i think about this. i wasn't expecting any console or whatever, but by the time he heard about what had happened to me it seems that he is glad because i had -finally- feel it TOO. it seems that he is so happy that i feel the suffering TOO.
i felt shocked. like, 'are you that happy coz now i feel it too? the misery? was your misery caused by me? NO. geez!'
shall this post happened to offend you, i hope you could leave some comment providing your perspective so that i can see it from another side.
1 comment:
well.. though yes.. he may feel a bit better that "he's not alone" but i don't think he initially wishing you to experience the same thing as he did nor he felt glad that you encountered the same calamity unless he's such a bad person..
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