because we have different eyes

that's why we see things differently. and the different input being process differently, and so we think differently.

which is, just natural, in this big wide world.

anyway i went to batam for weekend trip. and made me think quite alot. on marriage and having kids. hahhaa, aish, of course it is still a long way to go for me, but it doesnt stop one from thinking about it right?

anyway 4 members of the 14 persons trip were babies, toddler and kid. from 2 families.

to put things into shorter format, let's say im gaining insight on why my mom from my childhood memories is a fierce, strict, hardly smile, and harsh in her words.

i grow up becoming a timid and shy and non-expressive kid, the one that's least adorable in the group.

be a lenient parents, and you produce an expressive, loud, and loveable kid.
be a strict parents, and you produce a polite, and good in following orders- kid.

the insight was, comparing how these two families handles their babies, i see the difference it made.

the complication is this, everybody loves the expressive kid, but none love the bratty spoiled one. but to me it seems to be a -package- you give treatment X, you get the result and side effect. that kind of idea.

seems that all will be left to the characters of the kids themselves. just like how different my bro and i, growing up in the same family.

but still, my conclusion (for today) is kid needs guidances. bratty one no matter how adorable needs to be teached. so yes, in my opinion it is very much up to the guardians.